 \\ Even as the seasons change around us we can still feel stagnant and discontent on the inside. Nature reminds us that every thing is in flux, that it is important to be flexible and that change is the only constant. So what do we do when it feels like we are in a rut? Like nothing is shifting or changing for us? When we are bored or unhappy with the status quo? Boredom and restlessness are clear indicators of the need for change. Sometimes we may feel frustrated, irritated or even depressed when change needs to happen. Often when we feel this way, the first thing we do is start to change our external environments. When we are tempted to reorganize our homes, de-clutter our closets, end relationships or get a new hair cut we can recognize it as an effort to change our inner experience. These things boost us for a little while, but lasting change comes from changing your inner environment.
Finding harmony and balance in your internal life, creates it in your external life. We must make inner change to transform our outer experience. Here are somethings that can help change your inner environment: Meditation Positive Affirmations A Daily Gratitude Journal Looking for the Positive in Your Life Uplifting Music Aromatherapy Smiling Resolving External Conflicts Self Care Movement, Dance, Exercise Going Outside Connecting with a Friend You may still need to break up with someone, freshen up your look or re-arrange the furniture....and de-cluttering is always a good idea. However, doing your internal work first will allow you to be more intentional about your external experience. As always, I am here for you if you need support or guidance as you do your work. Blessings on your journey.
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 Autumn is often thought of as a time of harvest, gathering and celebration. It is also the end of Summer, a time of increasing darkness and a season to connect with those we have lost. This season is one of abundance as well as letting go. Finding this balance within our own lives allows us to move more fluidly with what is happening around us and within us. So how do we find that balance? I find that the clearest way to see what areas need attention in our lives, is to give focus to the ones that we resist looking at the most. For some this could be how hard to see the sun fading, the loss of warmth, the leaves falling. This may be because it reminds us of aging and the way that we see that in our culture. Autumn could also be difficult because it leads us towards holidays that are usually associated with family, which, if those relationships are challenging, could mean leading us towards a time of stress and frustration. Looking at why we are resistant to the external changes around us, can give us insight into areas of our hearts that need more inspection. If aging is hard to think about, consider why. Does it create fear? What might you be afraid of? What are your fears based on? How can you think differently? Understanding our fears takes the sting out of them and allows us to create new perspectives. If we refuse to even look at the resistance or fear, then we remain stuck. If family is challenging this time of year, how could you change that? Sometimes just softening our hearts, being the one to choose flexibility or being curious instead of judging can change the whole dynamic. Often the change we are looking for is the one that we can make by choosing something new instead of expecting someone else to change.
As the trees lose their leaves they are making way for new growth next Spring. They are allowing nature to prepare them for good things and a season of growth and fruit. What can you let go of this season to prepare for new growth and fruit in your life? What would it take to make that choice? As always, if you are looking for support as you make change and choose transformation, I am here for you.  Autumn is a season of release and pruning. The trees and plants let go of what they no longer need and move into conserving their energy for the Winter months to come. Flowers appear to die, while in truth their roots move deeper into the soil to sustain them through the cold season ahead.
Often as humans we fight this system of release, we don't know how to let go. We grasp and clutch at so much in our lives, including what no longer serves us. Our thoughts are haunted with "should" and the guilt caused by not making a choice one way or another, piles up. Moving from the place of Should, into the option of Could, gives us the opportunity to choose something and escape the guilt of hovering in the limbo of obligation. Instead of saying, "I should be painting/doing a certain thing." We can say, "I could paint, I could write a letter, I could work on my website, I could call my parents..." When we are in this place we can say Yes or No, we can choose what comes next. Setting the intention to prune what no longer serves or suits us makes room for growth. We move forward from this Choice Making place into allowing our inner guidance to lead us. We can listen for what we are Called to do. Being passionate about something means that you are drawn towards it, like a magnet. Allowing this Call to give you direction, leads you on a path towards passionate living and ultimately living your best most creative life. Sometimes we need a little assistance along the way... if you feel like you could use some extra guidance or coaching reach out! -Joy |
AuthorJoy Dennis, writer, life transformation facilitator, spiritual alchemist, hypnotherapist, Reiki practitioner and Intuitive. Archives
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